It Takes Two
Deciding on what is best to improve a sexual relationship takes thought and consideration of two people. It is very important that common ground is found with both partners when searching for solutions for this very personal matter.
When it comes to talking about sex with your partner fear may set in. You are opening up a vulnerable part of yourself that can lead to your feelings potentially being rejected. Your thoughts can be your worst enemy when thinking about talking to your partner. The reality is that the response you receive from your partner is almost never as bad as you think it will be. Talking openly about your sexual desires, likes and dislikes, can not only improve your sex life but it can improve other aspects of your relationship.
If you pretend that everything is good, your partner will take the wrong cues and things will never change. If you pretend to long, your partner may feel pretty lousy when you finally do bring up issues. They may feel upset that sex has not been making you feel good and hurt that you didn’t feel comfortable bringing it up. Also you may find that they do not enjoy doing the same thing you don’t, but continue because they think you enjoy it. If your needs are not being met and you do not make them known your partner can’t fulfill them.
- Make sure and ask your partner if they have any suggestions on how you two can make changes.
- If you want to bring up products that you feel will help your relationship, such as the IntimateRider, reinforce care for them by letting them know that you love and care for them and that you like being with them. Present the product as something that will enhance their own pleasure and give both of you more options when making love. Be aware of their personal sensitivities and insecurities and speak with kindness.
Sex and communication is an ongoing process and it might feel awkward at first, but don’t feel that you need to get everything out at one time. Each of you needs to take time after your discussions to think about what has been said and how to make changes that will improve your relationship.